AD| There are so many positives to being in a healthy relationship (you can read about that over here), but does anyone ever talk about how to date with you struggle with Anxiety?
What is Anxiety?
Anxiety is the body`s natural response to fear and/or stress. At some point, everyone experiences Anxiety. However, when it begins to interfere with your life, then it is time to seek help. This looks different for everyone.
Symptoms of Anxiety
Feeling a sense of panic
Breathing fast and heavy
There are many more, as Anxiety can look different on everyone. These are only a few common symptoms. A lot of times anxiety is heightened when faced with the unknown, and dating can bring a lot of unknowns.
So, if we know that dating is healthy, and can bring a lot of positives to your life, but we know it can bring a lot of anxiety, what should we do?
How To Date With Anxiety
First, allow yourself to have your anxiety. Rather than fighting it, try understanding it, and show yourself compassion.
So many relationships begin online. There are some beautiful dating sites out there like this one Wiltshire Dating Site that make finding a date that much easier. Dating online can decrease your anxiety because it is much easier to plan, and understand what is going on when you are not face to face. Talking with someone face to face can increase anxiety, so online dating might be the better option for you.
Have a clear understanding of the plan.
Once you find someone you`d like to meet and go on a date with, be involved with making the plans for the date. This can decrease your anxiety and be very calming. Knowing what to expect can be a game-changer for you.
Know details like, where you are going, what the dress code is, how far away is it, what sort of food is served, and anything else that may decrease your anxiety.
Go in seperate vehicles.
This puts far less pressure on you if the date isn`t going well, or if you suddenly need to leave. Having your own escape can be calming even if you never use it.
Try to put yourself in situations that challenge your anxiety. It can be small things like paying for the groceries and answering the cashiers questions, or sitting at a coffee shop alone. Strengthening your skills will help you. It will help you be comfortable with your anxiety, and then learn what your triggers and limits are.
Celebrate your success!
Even if the date isn`t the greatest date in the world, and you are not soul mates, take the time to celebrate what you overcame to get there. Going out on a date is challenging your anxiety 100%, and you kicked it`s butt!
Don`t ever be ashamed.
Don`t be ashamed of having anxiety, or the limitations that you may have because of it. A true partner, and a good person is going to understand, and care. They will be compassionate and kind. Don`t be ashamed.
If you are someone who struggles with anxiety, how do you navigate dating?