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I remember from as young as five years old staring into the mirror, and struggling with my self-image. I would wish with all my might that who was looking back at me would change my outward appearance.
I always believed I was a nice person, and a good friend, but right from the beginning when I looked in the mirror, all I saw were flaws. Already at that age, I knew, or rather, had the though that pretty girls had long hair, curls were a bonus point, beautiful eyes, most likely blue, thick eyelashes, and they were thin/small.
And guess what? I had none of these. As soon as I went to kindergarten my relationship with my body was doomed. I already knew to compare myself to every other little girl. I wish I could go back and love myself a little harder, or find words to be able to open up and talk about my feelings.
Sadly, I can`t even tell you that over the years how I saw my body improved. It`s still a struggle, even now at 30.
How did I know at that age to hate my body, and to want to look different? How does a young child pick up what flaws they believe they have? Is it something that we, as a society can change?
I had a wonderful home, and had every opportunity to open up about my feelings, but for some reason I remember feeling like there were so many other important things going on. I never valued my feelings, my thoughts, or anything. I saw myself as an imposition to everyone.
I think, because of this, I tended to be a people pleaser. I never wanted anyone to feel what I felt. I would do just about anything to fit into what the
norm was and make others happy.
Now, I wonder, is loving yourself something you need to be taught as a child, or if a child typically just does, and I was the odd one. I ponder this, not to blame, or critisize, but rather to try to understand so I can help and save my own children.
A flaw is somewhat of an imperfection. Something that I believe children should not be feeling about their bodies. I think children, myself included, picked/pick up society and their environments values towards outward appearances.
My entire life I have spent believing that every other person is far more worthy and deserving of everything than I. How is it possible that a small child has the ability to decide their worth? How is it that that is even a thought for them?
I`m dedicated to loving myself and all my
As well as learn to create and maintain a body positive mindset, space, aura and energy so I can help my children, and every person in my life know they they are not defined by their bodies, the number on the scale, or any other piece of themselves them deem to be a flaw.
If you are not familiar with The Body Positive Movement, here is a brief rundown. It is simply the idea, and truth, that all people deserve to have a positive body image regardless of how society or popular cultures current views on shape, size, and appearance.
I never want my children, or anyone, to feel anything less than extra-ordinary, and the world is not designed to support that. The body positive movement is a spark of hope to crush was society believes bodies should look like.
I`m slowly learning to embrace my flaws.
Though, this is quite a struggle. I constantly remind myself that I am beautiful just the way that I am. I remind myself to not think or speak hurtful things about my body. I use daily affirmations. I do anything I can to help myself learn, and understand, that everything about me, is also beautiful. Just like every other human being.
I`m in love with Lyndsey`s art, and honored to have had the opportunity to collaborate. I 100% agree with Lyndsey`s thoughts on body positivity, which are body positivity is about appreciating what your own body does for you everyday. Carrying you places, hugging the ones you love, and experiencing the world around you. Its the most constant thing we have and we need to come an acceptance and true love for it.
Our body is our home. We need to treat it well, at the same time as teaching young children too.
Lyndsey has created an incredible body positive piece of art that I am completely in love with!
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Sending so much love to every single one of you, N