Advertisements
Life with N,  This Parenting Thing

Breastfeeding

I knew that with baby #3 I was going to breastfeed. I had tried for 1 day with baby #2, but it just wasn`t for me.

Baby #3 was going to be my last, and I was determined to have this experience. I did a bit of light reading about breastfeeding, but nothing really stuck. Besides, it`s a natural thing that women can do, so it must come naturally, right?

WRONG!

Well, wrong in my case anyway.

In the last month of my pregnancy, it was a reoccuring topic of conversation with my midwife.

I was very clear with the fact that I was going to need help, and that none of this, or anything that I had read felt like it was going to come natural to me.

Well, #3 was born, and my regular midwife wasn`t present, but rather another one that I had seen a few times. I remember it all so clearly, but I don`t remember how long after the birth, she said…

`Okay, put baby to your breast.`

So, let`s just insert PANIC here. I had no idea how to do that. My body was screaming in pain, and I felt completely overwhelmed and like I had already failed.

In that moment, I remember feeling like I had never even held a baby. I didn`t know how, never mind how to put him to my breast.

In those moments, when I should have been bonding, and resting, I was devastated that I didn`t know how to do this breastfeeding thing. Again.

I hope you are never left to feel this way. But just in case, or just in case you have felt this way, I`ve compiled alist of things I learned throughout my breastfeeding journey to hopefully help you feel a little less alone.

Invest in good nursing bras.

It is worth the time and money to find nursing bras that are comfortable and supportive for you. I found cotton, wireless night time ones from Motherhood Maternity, and my regular daytime ones from Thyme Maternity. I liked that they were still very pretty, even though they were nursing bras.

It`s going to hurt.

If it doesn`t, of course that`s amazing and wonderful, and I will be so happy for you, but chances are there will be some sort of pain/discomfort feeling associated with breastfeeding.

I was under the impression that it would only hurt if baby wasn`t latched right. WRONG! Even if baby latches perfectly, chances are you are still going to experience some sort of discomfort as your body adjusts to this new function it performs.

This was awful for me.

So many times I wanted to stop. I was simply not prepared for this. My body already ached, because, well, I just had a baby, and now this?

I don`t write this to scare you. I write it so you know. So that you know you aren`t alone. I remember sitting in my rocking chair, nursing baby, just crying and crying. It can be a lonely and isolating journey, even WITH support people.

Make sure you have nipple cream.

I used Lansinoh HPA Lanolin Cream, but I do know there are many options. Maybe there are even natural remedies. It helped with cracking, and infections and pain. Don`t run out. Have a spare always!

Have a comfortable nursing space.

Whether it`s a chair, bed, couch, make sure you have a space that is already set up and cosy for you. Once you get the hang of it then you probably will nurse anywhere, but at the beginning when you are uncomfortable and learning, making sure YOU are comfortable is essential to have a good feeding.

It`s okay to be frustrated.

I felt so much guilt, because I would be so upset that he wasn`t learning, or I wasn`t learning. There are so many emotions and hormones going on after birth. However you are feeling is perfectly okay. Having a baby is hard, and hard on your body. Allow yourself time.

Breastfeeding is not for everyone,

and that is perfectly okay! As long as baby is fed and healthy, and Mama is happy and healthy, that is what is important.

Make sure you are making the best choice for you.

Love Always, N

Advertisements

6 Comments

  • MJ

    Oh wow! This was so inciteful (if that’s a word, probably not but it works)! I always assumed it was easy. I kind of figured the discomfort but wow I’m so sorry you for this experience! I now understand why some women don’t breastfeed. I guess it takes a lot to to. Best of luck going forward! This sure will help someone.

  • Helen

    Great post, and such a hard topic to touch on. I was never able to breastfeed due to my medication and yet I was preached to most days when the twins were in SCBU. I concur with your closing statement, so long as the bubs is fed and provided for, what else matters? Thank you so much for sharing,

    H x

  • Jenn

    This is an awesome post. I havent had any kids yet, but I do want to try breastfeeding. I know a lot of people hate it and judge you for doing or not doing it and they just need to stop. Do what you want and what you can. Just do what’s best for you and baby. Thank you for the post!

  • Jess

    Post like these are so important especially for new moms! While it is an awesome bonding experience and does so much for the child it is hard. I’m so glad you put realness to this experience

  • Lozza

    I really needed to read this!

    My baby is two weeks old now and I had breastfed him up until a few days ago.
    I felt so guilty for stopping and switching to formula as he latched beautifully but I was becoming so sore and he would graze on my breast all day and the feeding process would take forever.

    As you say, as long as baby is happy and healthy, whatever your feeding choice is – that’s okay!

    Love Lozza xo
    https://girlygabble.com

  • Entertainingly Nerdy

    Oh man its a relief to know I’m not alone. I had my first kid 10 months ago and I was pressured to breastfeed. The staff at the hospital were not helpful in anyway and I absolutely hated it. It’s actually something I’ve grown not to mind so much anymore but I am counting down the days when I can stop lol.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.