Things we always assumed would be there, are now off limits. Parks, malls, playgrounds, etc. The whole world is in a crisis, all at the same time. It has maybe affected your job, your financial picture, your family, and your life as a whole. So how does if affect love lives? How do you keep connected and keep the romance alive when we’re going through this troubling time? Or, if you were in the middle of exploring and enjoying dating, where does this pandemic leave you?
If you’re quarantined together, that can certainly cause some tension and frustration.
Being with the same people day after day can definitely do that. And, if you’re a parent, add children on top of that! First, know that however you’re feeling is perfectly okay. This is a very trying time, and being with people 24/7 is hard.
Here are 3 tips to help you:
Notice how you are feeling. Being present and mindful can help you so much. Knowing how you’re feeling and acknowledging what your mind and body need is a way of showing yourself some love and kindness.
Communicate with your partner. Communication is SO important! Let your partner know how you are feeling. If you aren’t feeling very sexual, happy, satisfied, etc, communicate these with them. Your feelings are valid and important.
Tying both #1 and #2 together, allow yourself to feel however you feel, and then be clear and honest with yourself and whoever your quarantined with regarding what you need. Maybe you need space, or maybe you need a hug. Being open, honest, and clear will help keep your relationship flowing smoothly.
If you are in quarantine/lockdown and finding yourself single/alone, you might find yourself wanting a partner.
You can set up dates through video chat and get to know each other. Ask each other questions and treat it just like a first date. You can cook, bake, have coffee/tea, and just hang out. If you find yourself enjoying their company, make another date. You can still date each other even if you currently can’t go out.
Covid-19 has definitely affected every single person in some way, shape or form.
It’s been a very sad, tense, and stressful time. Having someone to share it, and experience it with could very well improve your mental health, and serve as a distraction from everything that is going on. Whether that person is physically with you, or through a dating site, confiding in someone is important and helpful.
If you’re feeling lonely, or just want to explore dating, it IS possible during this time. Be open to trying it, even if it feels uncomfortable at the beginning. While it might be odd at the beginning, the results might surprise you!