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Reflections – Looking At Yourself In A New Way

Have you ever pondered over reflections and what they mean?

When you look in the mirror, what is it that you see? Are you someone who sees a body, with eyes staring right back at you? Or are you someone who sees heart, soul, and emotion? I see flaws. I see negativity. I see everything that I have done wrong in my life, and every person that I have hurt. I see everything that I want, but don`t deserve. When I look in the mirror, I see head to toe, everything that is wrong with me. Or, rather, everything that I deem to be wrong about myself. I have been like this my entire life. I have always thought there was something wrong with me, even as a little girl. I am doing a lot of work to change this, but 29 years being one way, it is going to take time to change it. It is a journey.

A journey of acceptance. *

See, I am learning that I am not defined by my body. I am not my body at all. I am a person, that lives IN a body, but I am not only my body. My whole entire being is what makes me a person. But, my body plays such a small part of my being doesn`t it. In the grand scheme of things. What about my personality, my character, or my other traits? Do these matter?

We live IN our bodies. We aren`t our bodies.

Every `flaw` that is on my body, is on there for a reason. Even my size, this is the size my body is meant to be. Of course I can work out, eat healthy, all of which I do, and yet this is still the size of my body. I suppose I could eat less, and work out even more than I already do if being smaller was the goal, but what if the goal shifted to being happy, healthy, and strong.

Why are we brought up to believe that we always need to find things wrong with us? Maybe it is just me, and not the way society formed me? Am I just destined to always feel this way? What if, when I saw my reflection, I saw all the positive parts of me? Even on a bad day, if I looked in a mirror, I would see strength, rather than failure.

Every time a bad day happens for me, I always feel like it takes away every single good day I have had, and now I am back starting at the beginning again. It is so discouraging. So when I see my reflection, I see failure and mess. What if instead, I saw strength and courage? It takes bravery and courage to keep fighting an invisible illness, and to keep living on. What if everyone saw that, instead of seeing it as a flaw?

Every time you look in a mirror, I challenge you to try to change your mind.

Try to change how it works. Reprogram it. It WILL be hard. It WILL take work. Make a conscious effort to notice the wonderful things about yourself. Point them out to yourself. Maybe even verbally. Reflections are a way to see you how everyone else sees you. It is simply you looking back at yourself. Take a moment, and look at yourself. Stare deep into your eyes acting as a gateway to your soul.

Forgive yourself for all your wrongdoings that you carry with you. Forgive yourself for any emotional pain you feel you have caused. Look into your reflection, and tell yourself that you forgive you. Practice forgiveness to yourself each, and every day. Until all the weight has been lifted from your shoulders, and you can finally move freely.

As you move forward, and you walk through life, what do you want to see looking back at you? What do you want your reflection to show?

I truly believe we are all capable to do anything we want. Anything is possible. Maybe some have to work harder than others, but none the less it is possible. Write down, or draw, or sketch some form of a vision that you have for the reflection you want to see, and then work for it.

You are worth investing time into, and creating the YOU that you want to be. Maybe it will take some therapy, some counselling, a change of job, going to school, etc. It might be a big change, or a small change. Or maybe, you are thrilled with your reflection and you are exactly where you wish to be. That is amazing.

Reflections shouldn`t be about our exterior image. We are so much more than our body. We live IN our body, but we are not our body. Teach yourself to know, that you are so much more. Reflections are what is in your heart and soul.

Love Always, Enn



  1. BR

    March 15, 2021 at 9:11 am

    I can relate this a lot
    Thanks for sharing

    1. admin

      March 15, 2021 at 9:39 am

      thank you for reading and commenting

  2. Arun

    April 6, 2019 at 9:28 pm

    I can relate to it so well. I have borderline personality disorder and it's eo stigmatised. I feel the same way about my body too.

  3. Chloe Chats

    April 4, 2019 at 6:41 pm

    I love this! It's kind of odd how we often see ourselves as negative, and even though we do have positives about ourselves our minds always point out the negatives. I think society has affected that, with social media and the way we see others, we often compare them to ourselves and it makes us feel negative about our own body because it's not "perfect" but what even is a perfect body?? There's no definition for it, we are all different, so we'll all have different bodies that suit us. It's definitely something I'm working on though to be more positive about myself <3

    Chloe xx

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