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Mental Health,  Self-Care with N

Beauty with N – Self Love Goals

I have read a great deal of blog posts regarding the bloggers` beauty routine. It’s become one of my biggest self love goals. It`s always so wonderful and I find it so inspiring that they set aside time each and every day to follow this routine that they have created. I was inspired to write a post telling you about my beauty routine.

Who am I kidding?! I don`t have any sort of beauty routine whatsoever.

Some days I don`t even manage to get dressed, never mind commit to a routine. Some days I don`t see how I deserve to commit that time to myself. I feel so worthless and hopeless some days. My illness beats me up to the point where I lay lifeless and barely awake.

But, I think having this is wonderful. Life is so busy and can get so chaotic, it`s lovely to think of having a consistent routine that is centred all around yourself and caring for yourself.

I`ve tried many times. But it seems as soon as I set a routine, the low comes crashing in and getting out of bed is a big enough chore. Sometimes even opening my eyes at the start of the day is too much. The demons swirl, and drag me down, making sure to chain me to an anchor, never letting me go.

But the odd time, I have been able to get in 2-3 days of a beauty routine. It will usually consist of washing my face and brushing my hair, which is nothing compared to a lot of lovely bloggers, but for me it is a mountain I am climbing. When I am able to make it to the top, and I finish my little routine, I feel wonderful. It feels really wonderful to set aside time to care for myself. It is even wonderful to believe that I am worth the time.

So, while I don`t have a routine at this point, I am going to set some personal goals to help myself find that time to care for myself.

N`s Beauty Routine Goals

  1. Take the time to wash, condition and deep condition my hair at least twice a week.
  2. Moisturize, moisturize, moisturize
  3. Enjoy a bath once a week WITHOUT feeling guilty for stepping away from being a mom
  4. Wash face EVERY SINGLE NIGHT.
  5. Wear a piece of jewlery everyday. (I love jewlery, but never find the time, and don`t put the effort in to do it.)

Day to day it`s like I`m just existing, but I`m not actually there. My mind isn`t present. It`s as if I`m going through the motions of live, without ever actually living it. On the outside, you see my body, but if you could see inside, you`d see a ghost. I`m filled with emptiness, and no amount of make-up will fill the holes.

But, what I am learning is that beauty does not necessarily need to imply make-up.

While I may not have energy to apply make-up on a regular basis, I can incorporate beauty in many other areas of my life.

So, I have gone days without caring for myself sadly. The realness of life with mental illness can be ugly. I have gone days without brushing my hair. Days without even washing it. Days without showering. My list, sadly, just goes on. When the lows hit me, my demons simply won`t allow anything. I try to be stronger, but I fail. Every… single…. time.

The very things that will help me feel better, are the very things that I can`t find the energy or motivation to do.

This is where my self love goals jump in. It`s the little things that are often neglected for me. I care for my children, even when my mental health is bad. But, as for me, I neglect myself.

I`m sure this is the reality for many. I don`t even thing that neglect is the right word to use. These beauty/self-care habits just don`t pop into my head when my mental health is suffering.

So I`m making these goals with the hopes they become a routine. My beauty routine is probably very odd compared to most, but essentially, my goal is to care for myself, and allow myself to take the time to have a routine.

What does your beauty routine look like?

Does your mental health play any role in it? What are some of your self love goals? 

Love Always N

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23 Comments

  • Vicky

    I don’t have a set beauty routine but I definitely agree: taking the time to take care of yourself is super important! I’d love to set aside time for a bath once a week; I find them so relaxing 😀

  • Alyssa

    My beauty routine is not as professional as others but I always moisturise like you and wash my face with warm water. I use very few products and the ones I do are natural and vegan. Also drinking loads of water helps your skin I believe!
    Thank you for sharing.
    Alyssa
    thesacredspaceap.com

  • Carolyn

    Wow, I dont officially suffer with
    mental health, but some days ( usually on weekend) I trully feel this way. A list helps me to motivate me. I am a detailed oriented person that requires me to achieve something or tick off a list of to do’s inorder to be happy with myself.
    I think your beauty list is great, I may need to make one for myself on weekends so I dont forget about me.
    Good luck with your list

  • Miss Blogs-A-Bit

    So you don’t have a solid, regimented routine? So what! You need to do whatever you need to do on any given day. If that means the very basic “wash face, brush teeth” and that’s it, then so be it! I find it difficult to stick to a routine too sometimes. “Self-care” as they call it, can totally depend on my mood also. You do you!

    http://www.missblogsabit.com

  • Nyxie

    This was very informative, especially for someone who has next to no skin or beauty routine. And I wonder why my skin is suffering! Thank you so much for sharing this, you’ve certainly given me some ideas 🙂

  • Aaliyah

    Not everyone has a specific routine and I think that’s ok! I always think that people should do what makes them happy and setting those goals is really great! X

  • Ellen

    I really liked your take on the meaning of beauty. You’re so right, internal beauty is even more important than external beauty. Thanks for sharing!

  • Nicole B.

    I don’t have a beauty routine. I am lucky to shower twice a week! I haven’t worn makeup in many years. It’s never really been my thing, and once I learned my husband does not like it, that gave me the license to stop bothering with it. Once I feel like I can trust the kids to be alone while I shower, that will happen more often. At least my curly hair prefers being washed less often.

  • Jamilyn Lambert

    I like that you raised the question about whether or not your mental health is part of your beauty! I think it TOTALLY is. Also, beauty is not just in how much makeup you put on, but on the N-side ;). Great post!

  • Alice

    Sorry to hear you are going through this. But you’re right, on a good day just getting up and doing one thing can be beneficial and help you avoid falling into a hole.

  • Jess

    I love reading other skincare/beauty routines! As someone with a busy schedule its often easy to take some time to pamper yourself. Your routine sounds lovely but also achievable which is great. I never understand those who fit in a massive routine every day though I’m sure their skin loves them for it.

    Thank you for sharing.

    Jess x
    http://www.secretdiaryofjess.com

  • Messy Mama

    My heart felt every part of this post. As someone who suffers from anxiety and depression, I understand how hard a simple routine can be. Just getting to the mirror is sometimes the hardest part. Each one of us suffers differently so unfortunately I don’t have the right words to help you through this. All I can say is, regardless of the voices in your head, you deserve to love yourself so fiercely. Even at your worst. This post was so raw and realistically different. Thank you for sharing.

  • Arun Dahiya

    I can so relate to it. Due to my physical and mental health I never have the motivation to do much. For me taking a bath, brushing and combing is an accomplishment. At the end of the day, we are trying our best.

  • Sarah Winton

    My beauty routine changes with my moods too. When I’m feeling a lot of anxiety I just can’t be bothered with it. I know what it’s like to go days without caring for yourself at all and self-care can mean doing the smallest things.

  • Rachael

    It’s so refreshing that you admit to not having a beauty routine and being a bit haphazard in the morning! I do have a routine that I stick to but that’s only because I’m a bit haphazard too and have to have a routine to prevent myself being late for everything!

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