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Health&Wellness,  Life with N

7 Major Stresses In Life And Tips To Cope

Life, I have found, is S O busy, and there is always something going on.

I have often thought I had life all figured out, and then something happens, and B A M I`m back at square one again. Of course having 3 kids doesn`t make it any less stressful, but they don`t actually cause all that much stress to be honest.

It`s mostly life, and all the struggles, the joys, and journeys that it holds. Happy things bring stress to our lives just as much as unhappy things. Odd, isn`t it? Stress is often associated with negative events, but in reality, is just as often found with positive ones.

So, what IS stress?

Stress is the body`s reaction to any change that requires an adjustment or response. (More can be found here…) It can bring reactions physically, mentally, and emotionally that can often lead to other feelings as well.

STRESS IS N O R M A L.

It`s a super normal part of life. We all have stresses. Stress can be triggered from anything. Positive changes in lives such as moving, buying a house, having a baby, starting a business and more. Negative changes like divorces/ending of relationships, financial struggles, and unhealthy/toxic environments can also bring a lot of stress. There isn`t anything one can do to have a life with zero stresses, but there are things to do that can help manage it, and cope with it.

How does long-term stress affect your body?

Ah! This is intense. Prolonged/daily stress can bring a lot of health issues to your body. Everything from, headaches, heartburn, depression, weakened immune system, high blood sugar, pounding heart beat, fertility issues, low sex drive, and more. Stress can really affect everything from your head to your toes. Visiting your healthcare provider on schedule and making sure your open and honest with them can definitely help with stress management.

While there are many things we can do to help with stress, sometimes things are really out of our control and with stress being a natural body response, there isn`t anything we can do.

7 Major Stresses In Life And Tips To Cope

  • Death of a partner or child (or any loved one really). A partner and child you would have spent time building a life filled with love. I can`t even imagine how hard it would be to experience this. If there is anything I`ve learned from losing loved ones it would be to take that time to grieve. Grief is a normal, and healthy process. Move through the experience at your own pace, not at any pace anyone is trying to tell you to (if that`s the case). Maybe also find a support group when you are ready. I have found that it can be easier to open up to strangers rather than family.
  • Divorce. Some divorces get really ugly. Seek emotional support. You don`t need to go through it alone. Maybe find a hobby too during that time to bring some light and positivity into your life.
  • Major Illness/Injury. This can often be life-changing for the person and their family. Whether it`s finding financial help or emotional support, this typically affects more than just the person.
  • Marriage. See! A happy event made my list. But, this is one of the reasons why I`ve yet to walk down the aisle. The stress of planning a wedding is so d*mn scary to me. Makes me run the other way! Tips for this one? Nope. None from me.
  • Going to jail. . . . Yes. I imagine this would be stressful. I think my tip would be to just try to avoid it?
  • A job loss. Not everyone has a million dollar bank account, so this definitely would be a stress. Even just thinking about it is stressing me right now! A few tips I use to help with this one is mainly focused on budgeting, saving, and trying to achieve financial security.
  • Moving/Building a house. I`ve moved plenty of times and it`s awful. The best tips I could give is pack organised. It`s much easier to unpack that way.
See? Good AND bad have the potential to bring a stress reaction to our body.
Common symptoms of stress:
  • low energy
  • low appetite
  • fatigue
  • chest pain
  • low sex drive
  • frequent colds
  • being moody/agitated
  • clenched jaw/grinding teeth
Stress management is so important.

Take some time to learn some tools and skills that will help you through life. Self-care is key, along with breathing exercises for me. (You can read my tips about self-care over here!) I use a 5,4,3,2,1 technique when I am starting to feel too much stress and it diverts my thinking and then I can go back to that when I`m ready.

Taking back control is the first step I think.

There will always be things in our lives that stress us, but I`ve sort of started saying `yes, I see you stress, I feel you stress, I hear you stress, and I am going to come to you when I am ready to.` This gives me the power, rather than having to surrender. It totally may sound silly, but acknoledging that it`s there but that I might not be ready to handle it, or manage it has been so helpful.

What tools do you use to cope with stress?

Love Always, N

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29 Comments

  • Eilidh Horder

    If I can manage a walk in nature, this often does the trick. And concentrating on breathing… Sometimes something practical like cleaning out a drawer can feel as though I’m making my life a little better too. 🥰 Great post – thank you!

    • admin

      Thank you for sharing this! Concentrating on breathing definitely helps me. I will try something practical in the future! Thank you!

  • Rhiannon

    I actually had no idea that a cold could be a symptom of stress!!!!!!!! I litro have them all the time, when it clears within day it can come back from nowhere!! Thanks for sharing this love ❤💙

  • Laura

    So glad you talked about sickness and stress! Chronic illness has been kicking me in the pants the past few weeks and my body has been stressed as a result. The countdown technique is a good method to focus back on the present and I’ll give that a go next time or sure.

    • admin

      Yes me too actually. I often write things down just so I can see what I need to do next. Thank you so much for reading and commenting 💜

  • Kaci

    Your tip for jail stress is absolutely perfect. I love it. Lol.
    Overall awesome post. I’ve been feeling way more stressed recently. Unfortunately, I tend to miss the signs until someone I know asks me if I’m stressed.

    Thank you so much for sharing!

  • Teresa

    Stress is a funny little thing. It can be positive, but most of the time it’s negative. I don’t usually notice when I’m stressed, it’s all subconscious. Until the day finally comes when I can relax and it all comes out. That’s when I get sick, not seriously sick, but I get fever or a flu. Couple times when the stress has been hard core, I have gotten seriously ill as well, so learning to manage stress is super important.

  • Heather

    Nice post! I manage stress by meditating at least 5 days a week and making sure to practice self-care, like an infrared sauna or a matcha latte with a cookie in the afternoon.

  • Finlay

    I love your countdown technique! I use something very similar, where I stop and take evaluation and then take steps to minimalize stuff as much as possible. I find that organizing myself helps too, a balanced to-do list helps things feel more manageable. As you say, stress is normal, and actually stress helps us to stick to goals, but it’s making sure that stress doesn’t tip over into unhealthy. Thanks for a great post!

  • Carolyn

    This is a wonderful post! I feel like we all feel generalized stress and just sort of deal with it, so it’s great to see it broken down into pieces like this (causes, major factor, etc.). I’ve definitely experienced some of these in my life. The marriage stress one is real, I’m sorry to say. My wedding day was perfect, but every day up until then? Hated it. If you ever plan to get married, elope and then have a big party some time afterwards. Trust me, it’s less stressful, and it’ll be easier on your wallet. Great post!

  • Emma

    Stress is such an important topic to talk about. Particularly if you think about the seven you mentioned. They’re all massive life changes so there’s bound to be upheaval. I know when I’m stressed, whether big or little things, carving out some time for myself is more important than anything else. Particularly if there’s not much I can practically do to stop the stress at least I know I’m making it easier to manage and hold on until it’s over!

  • Ana

    Great points. Stress is definitely even in the good things. I’m currently planning a big birthday party for my daughter and I’m frazzled/ stressed making sure it all turns out nicely. I have to remind myself to take a deep breath– everything will be fine. Thanks for sharing.

    • admin

      Good for you for reminding yourself to take deep breaths. You got this babe! The birthday party will be incredible! Thank you for reading and commenting!

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