Life, I have found, is S O busy, and there is always something going on.
I have often thought I had life all figured out, and then something happens, and B A M I`m back at square one again. Of course having 3 kids doesn`t make it any less stressful, but they don`t actually cause all that much stress to be honest.
It`s mostly life, and all the struggles, the joys, and journeys that it holds. Happy things bring stress to our lives just as much as unhappy things. Odd, isn`t it? Stress is often associated with negative events, but in reality, is just as often found with positive ones.
So, what IS stress?
Stress is the body`s reaction to any change that requires an adjustment or response. (More can be found here…) It can bring reactions physically, mentally, and emotionally that can often lead to other feelings as well.
STRESS IS N O R M A L.
It`s a super normal part of life. We all have stresses. Stress can be triggered from anything. Positive changes in lives such as moving, buying a house, having a baby, starting a business and more. Negative changes like divorces/ending of relationships, financial struggles, and unhealthy/toxic environments can also bring a lot of stress. There isn`t anything one can do to have a life with zero stresses, but there are things to do that can help manage it, and cope with it.
How does long-term stress affect your body?
Ah! This is intense. Prolonged/daily stress can bring a lot of health issues to your body. Everything from, headaches, heartburn, depression, weakened immune system, high blood sugar, pounding heart beat, fertility issues, low sex drive, and more. Stress can really affect everything from your head to your toes. Visiting your healthcare provider on schedule and making sure your open and honest with them can definitely help with stress management.
While there are many things we can do to help with stress, sometimes things are really out of our control and with stress being a natural body response, there isn`t anything we can do.
7 Major Stresses In Life And Tips To Cope
- Death of a partner or child (or any loved one really). A partner and child you would have spent time building a life filled with love. I can`t even imagine how hard it would be to experience this. If there is anything I`ve learned from losing loved ones it would be to take that time to grieve. Grief is a normal, and healthy process. Move through the experience at your own pace, not at any pace anyone is trying to tell you to (if that`s the case). Maybe also find a support group when you are ready. I have found that it can be easier to open up to strangers rather than family.
- Divorce. Some divorces get really ugly. Seek emotional support. You don`t need to go through it alone. Maybe find a hobby too during that time to bring some light and positivity into your life.
- Major Illness/Injury. This can often be life-changing for the person and their family. Whether it`s finding financial help or emotional support, this typically affects more than just the person.
- Marriage. See! A happy event made my list. But, this is one of the reasons why I`ve yet to walk down the aisle. The stress of planning a wedding is so d*mn scary to me. Makes me run the other way! Tips for this one? Nope. None from me.
- Going to jail. . . . Yes. I imagine this would be stressful. I think my tip would be to just try to avoid it?
- A job loss. Not everyone has a million dollar bank account, so this definitely would be a stress. Even just thinking about it is stressing me right now! A few tips I use to help with this one is mainly focused on budgeting, saving, and trying to achieve financial security.
- Moving/Building a house. I`ve moved plenty of times and it`s awful. The best tips I could give is pack organised. It`s much easier to unpack that way.
See? Good AND bad have the potential to bring a stress reaction to our body.
Common symptoms of stress:
- low energy
- low appetite
- chest pain
- low sex drive
- frequent colds
- being moody/agitated
- clenched jaw/grinding teeth
Stress management is so important.
Take some time to learn some tools and skills that will help you through life. Self-care is key, along with breathing exercises for me. (You can read my tips about self-care over here!) I use a 5,4,3,2,1 technique when I am starting to feel too much stress and it diverts my thinking and then I can go back to that when I`m ready.
Taking back control is the first step I think.
There will always be things in our lives that stress us, but I`ve sort of started saying `yes, I see you stress, I feel you stress, I hear you stress, and I am going to come to you when I am ready to.` This gives me the power, rather than having to surrender. It totally may sound silly, but acknoledging that it`s there but that I might not be ready to handle it, or manage it has been so helpful.
What tools do you use to cope with stress?
Love Always, N